The Torture

You've already read dday, right? Okay, this is what I have to say.

Morris believes that the scandal...gave us someone to blame.

"The Iraq war," said Morris, "was essentially a war of sexual humiliation."

These are perhaps two different issue, indirectly related. We didn't need someone to blame because we just decided it didn't really happen. We grabbed at the excuses offered and accepted them eagerly because we can't accept that we are causing others such pain. Most of us deny our own pain, and therefore deny others' pain also, an inevitable side effect. It's pretty much all or nothing when it comes to emotions.

The sexual humiliation comes from our need to reinforce our identity, via imposition of sexual roles. Power is a by-product of gender and therefore to make us feel powerless is also to make some of us feel sexually inadequate.

We learn these roles, our identity, our acceptance of emotions, from our parents in the first years of our lives. It all begins with the family, and affects the entire world.